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Fear as a Root of Anger
from:Fear is ultimately the underlying source of most anger. If you have a mental illness, substance abuse problem, or difficulty with managing your anger, fear is definitely the source of your problem.
When you learn to deal with fear then you're taking the steps to take control of your life by taking control of your anger. One of the best solutions for dealing with fear itself is to use rational self-talk techniques. If you're a person who tends to negative thinking, such as oh well, that's the way it is and it was going to happen anyway, so there is nothing I can do about it.
If this is you, then you need to rethink this statement, since in most instances you can prevent, or else you can change what happens in your life. This negative thinking leads nowhere and often increases a person's chance of exploding when anger develops. Most people are shallow in the mind when they refuse to see the positive in life. If you believe that you're hopeless, which is obvious in the above statement then your anger will rule you and you'll always have additional problems in life.
If you go to a bar, drink a few beers, leave and are pulled over you can't say, 'oh well, that's the way it is.' You set yourself up for this failure and heartache, therefore if you'd have taken a designated driver or a cab home, this wouldn't have happen in the first place. If you're the type of person who lives life full of fear and anger, then you are also setting yourself up for failure.
What if the sun drops from the sky tomorrow and never reappears. This irrational thinking leads nowhere and creates a fear. What if the sun dropped from the sky tomorrow and never reappears? Therefore just understand you can't do anything about. Change what you can change and leave what you can't change alone.
A person might set themself up for anger eruptions by pondering on something that was done a week ago. Let go and free your self from the pressure, since you can't undo what's already been done. It's gone, so why worry about last week when today is here. It's important to learn to appreciate what you have and what you do, rather to stress yourself over things that aren't within your control. If you have difficulty making decisions, you might want to remember that we all have to make decisions in life.
Decisions mean that a problem is current and needs to be resolved. This doesn't mean the world has tumblee, rather it means you need to take the steps required to solve the problems. You could start by evaluating the problem carefully. What does the problem entail? Next you can review your choices for solving the problem and pull out your resources together to deal with it. After you've finished you'll want to collect everything needed to resolve the problem. Finally, you'll need to review you choices, decisions, the problem and all the needed information to come to the proper conclusion.
Once you come to a conclusive decision, then take each step needed to handle the issue right away. Putting things off only makes matters worse. If you made a good decision and the outcome proves to be fruitful, be sure to pat yourself on the back for doing a good job. Don't linger on what if since, if it hasn't happened yet, it probably never will.
On the other hand, if it does happen, it might be the result of your decision, attitude, behavior, etc. This doesn't mean the problem can't be addressed and changed to make your life more livable. Life is full of problems and we all have our share to deal with. Don't let your emotions get the better of you by allowing your anger to control your life. Remember, fear is the root of anger and when you master fear, you're on your way to success. Finally, fear is healthy if it's used wisely.
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