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Criticizing Too Much
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Are you always ready to jump the gun? Are you quick to criticize what others say or do to you? Do you criticize your every move? Do you criticize every move of other people? If so then you're not in control of your emotions.
Criticism comes in good form and bad form. The bad form of criticizing leads to trouble and weighed down emotions. A person who constantly criticizes self and others is showing disapproval of the person or self, while condemning the self or others around him or her. Criticism is a censure that disparagingly carps other people's rights, and some may consider it a crime against God, since you're passing judgment on another person. This contradicts a fair appraisal, which leads you to ongoing assessment and constant analyzing of others and yourself. It's an ongoing evaluation. Thus, positive criticism is visual in constructive analyzing and appraisal while evaluating, assessing, analyzing and moving toward something positive.
Condemning others only weighs down the emotions, since you're giving judicial response, it's a punishment to the party. This is a blaming, accusing action that leads to mistrust, lies and the like, which is another major setback for the emotions.
Therefore, before you cast down judgment on self or others use your head to think critically about the situation. Why are you criticizing? Do you think you're better than everyone else? Do you have a grandiose personality flaw? Do you have the ability to analyze asses, evaluate, review and appraise while taking into account what others and self say and do?
An over criticizing person is self-indulged and often thinks of self rather than caring for what others feel. The person may have confusions in the mind, which is most likely true. This big blocker prevents them from relating, accepting and resolving which takes the person to commanding and mastering his or her own emotions.
To help you see at what time a person is overly criticizing, here are a few examples:
Tim struck out angrily at Roy at what time he said. Tim was late for his meeting. The problem is clear here, since Tim is feeling guilty for not showing up at his meeting on time, thus the scape goat becomes Roy, since he's someone Tim can blame or accuse for his own failures. This is fear rooted that causes Tim to act in such a profound way. Therefore, Tim has to face and own up to his fears, learn responsibility and move toward mastering and commanding his emotions.
If Tim had control, he would have said something to the effect. "Yes, Roy, I realize I'm late for my meeting, I need to get ready now so that I can try to make amends. This is showing that Tim realizes his failure. He's facing his fear. In addition, he's concentrating on ways to make amends for his lack of responsibility. He accepts and is taking control, thus Tim is master and commander of his emotions in this illustration.
As you can see, an evil state of mind or a mind filled with fear can erupt emotions and hinder us from progressing in life. It's up to you to take control of your mind while learning to accept your mistakes, accept discomfort and learn to take responsibility of your actions, words and behaviors. We must learn to do what's right and to have a clear working mind, which brings us the master and commander position regarding out emotions. The emotions must be tamed.
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